“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the ones I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Greater words have never been uttered, yet, this simple phrase seems daunting to me. I have struggled, through my entire life. I have struggled to the point that struggling is my norm, it is what is familiar to me. I have struggled so much that it feels strange to imagine not struggling, financially, romantically, family wise, career wise. I have struggled so long, and so deeply that I feel as though I do not know the feeling of peace, of not struggling.
I have been struggling to find a path with my life, and meanwhile have been going down the path I choose by not choosing. So I ask myself, “Self, why are you afraid of picking something you want to do?” My self responds, “Fear. Fear of making a mistake, choosing the wrong thing, making the wrong choice and being wrong.” I have been wrong my whole life as well, to everyone in my life. At least, that is how I have always seen it. My parents bore a child that was born wrong, their relationship was then deemed wrong and they divorced the moment I arrived. My peers deemed me wrong because I was physically different. I felt wrong from the start. So then, what must it feel like to feel right?
I have had glimpses of that feeling, through my children, and through a few people in my life that love me genuinely. I often push these people away, because the feeling I get from them feels, well, wrong. I am accustomed to being treated as less than. Less than the daughter wanted, less than a whole person, less than the perfect mate. I have spent my entire life trying to convince people that I am whole, I am enough. In reality, the one that needs the most convincing is me, that darn Self.
I am attracting good things to me, good people, positive events. The negative ones are still there, still reign supreme in my mind. But that is okay, because their time is limited. I am in therapy, I am working on leaving an abusive, awful situation, my kids are healthy, I am healthy, and soon, I will be happy forever. I am searching for the career of my life, and maybe just maybe it is not something I have to find for myself but rather something I create myself. Just like I am reinventing myself personally. I will invent myself professionally. I will create the career I am meant to reside in, until then, I will keep on my path….finish that elusive college degree, pay off my significant amounts of debt, and get myself prepared for the greatest second half of life ever.
Life is a highway, and I wanna drive it all night long…..wait, no, actually I want to sleep all night long, but that is a whole other life goal I will have to work towards. It is what it is, until it is something different, is a motto of mine. I think I am going to change that to, it is what it is, until I make it what I want it to be. And for that I say, “grant me the serenity to accept what I cannot change, the courage to change what I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
I invite anyone and everyone on my journey. It comes with a warning though, I am prone to randomness, roller coaster emotions, and a touch of brilliant genius. So buckle up, cause here we go…..